You can exhaust so much emotional energy trying to please people and mediate situations that the one that suffers is yourself. It's hard to turn and walk away from family and friends, but sometimes it's the best thing you can do, health and emotional wise.
My condolences for you loss, I hope you are able to recover quickly. It's not an easy thing to deal with.
Sage words indeed friend. Sometimes you can love a person with all your heart but eventually realise they are no good for you. As long as I cut out cooking nearly everything with bacon grease I should heal up fine. Unfortunately I learned to cook with bacon grease from my mom...who has had two heart attacks and four bypasses. I guess that was a pretty big hint huh?