Darin,
Recently, I have begun to date someone who has become very special to me, and like Bobbi, although for different reasons, also has very fragile health.
And like your beloved wife, I have also found that what is missing in physical robustness is more than made up for in mental and emotional toughness. I find her resilience inspiring everyday. I know you found Bobbi's the same way, and now, after the last two months with my lady, I more fully understand why. It also makes you understand why it is so very important to treasure those closest to you- for surely one day, and the wisest knows not when, death, the common leveler of all human greatness, will reduce us to the same state; and for some, it will be entirely too soon.
Bobbi's suffering and pain are over, although her physical presence will be missed, and it is difficult to deal with its absence, remember that in spirt and in the energy she had, she will always be with you. The energy of the human spirit, like other forms of energy, can never be destroyed- it only re-manifests itself in a different manner.
In the memorial service the Masons have for a departed Brother, there is one line that I have found brings some comfort to all people- "death is not a journey to the grave, but through the grave."
Remember that- the story has not ended, merely a new chapter begun.
In the meantime, you have the support of friends, loved ones and your fellow modelers. Please accept my sincerest and most heartfelt condolences over what I know is a very difficult loss for you. I, with all of us, stand by you.
Charlie Larkin