mnwildpunk Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 (edited) I finally know what it is to be confronted by death. I never realized a loss of a parent could, be so hard., thankfully I honestly haven't lost her yet but her being on the brink has taken a toll on me! Telling other relatives and such had drained me. I wish someone had magic words to make me feel better Edited February 7, 2014 by mnwildpunk
Kris Morgan Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Wish there were words to ease your pain. Sounds as if this is a situation where they are sick. Try to take peace in the fact that the suffering will be over and reflect back on the good times. I do hope this is of dome help.
JFortner5 Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 (edited) Wish there were words to ease your pain. Sounds as if this is a situation where they are sick. Try to take peace in the fact that the suffering will be over and reflect back on the good times. I do hope this is of dome help. Couldn't have said it better myself. After seeing my grandparents battle cancer it was almost a relief knowing they weren't suffering and we're in a better place. Edited January 19, 2014 by JFortner5
MsDano85gt Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 hang in there mn wild punk! my mother was not near death, but really bad off this past week her regular doctor immidietely hospitalized her to st. francis in shokopee she spent the better part of this week getting blood test after test they were not sure what it was really she was very ill from some sort of flu combined/ mixxed with her blood sugars levels being off, diabetes did not help it tore me up being all the way in mississippi, and the rest of the family except 2 sisters are all up in minnesota its difficult being so far away
High octane Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 It is very sad to lose a family member of close friend, however it is something we have to deal with during our lives. I know that at times it's something that is hard to accept, and getting over or more comfortable with the idea takes time. Sometimes more time than others. My dear mom has passed over five years ago and I still miss her. People don't realize that we have "expiration dates" too just like a carton of eggs or a bottle of milk, except that we don't know what our dates are. That's why we should try to live our lives to the fullest. In the last month three of my friends from model car clubs have lost their wives and I feel bad for them. Sometimes it can be a blessing as well, if a person is really sick and will never get better.
slusher Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Dave there is at some time that you will gain peace from this hard time. All of us have or will go thru the loss of parents. So many children lose parents at a young age. You have to be thankful for the time you have had with them. I lost my dad at 18 years old and I think of him every day and I am 48 now. I count the blessing I have got to keep my mother still but she is 80. Enjoy the wonderful memories and love thru the years. She knows you love her and ask God for peace. God is always near...
disabled modeler Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Dave buddy,,, I am very sorry shes so sick but its like many of us here we all sooner or later have to go through this(reach out to your friends and family for support..two people are stronger than one buddy...PM me anytime. I can tell you from my own personal experience once the time comes she will feel a peace that can not be described and all pain is gone. You know many people that are there for you buddy...just look to them for support in this hard time..will make it much easier.
ranma Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 I know how you feel I lost my wife of 14 years on the 28 th of December 2013. she was just 43 but had been ill for so long. in the last months she could hardly walk anymore. she was put in Hospice for the last 2 1/2 days of her life. she looked so at peace when she died. But just knowing that she is no longer suffering is a ease on my mind. I miss her like crazy though.
Mercman Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Yeah it's thing to handle. I lost both of my parents, and just recently a 30 yo nephew. Time will heal your lose though.
mnwildpunk Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Thank you all for the kind words. I have been spending as much time with her as I can.
rmvw guy Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 When I lost my Mother, over 20 years ago, she was suffering from diabetes and had lost the will to live. I would give anything to have back for a day but, she will always live in my heart and still comes alive in my dreams. Cherish every moment now even though it's a tough time for you, things will get better.
mnwildpunk Posted February 5, 2014 Author Posted February 5, 2014 They switched my mom to what they call passage care. Basically it won't be long now they say 24-72 hours. She is unresponsive now but the very last thing she has said to me so far is I love you too. I am not ready for this part of her journey but I guess no child ever is. I just hope she isn't uncomfortable. I lost a sister 10 yrs and one month ago today and I am still dealing with that. I know there are all walks of life on this board so I just ask that you would take 30 seconds and wish/pray or whatever that my mom has a safe exist from her pain; again I don't mean to get so heavy. In a side note a week or so ago I asked where I could find a 70 stingray (here favorite car). Well thanks to Mark Orr I was able to deliver on my promise of getting her a corvette. when I delivered it that was the last I saw her smile. Again I thank you for your support you have shown. I don't have many people to talk to about this so that is why this message is here
Danno Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 God Bless, Dave, you and your mother and your family.
slusher Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 They switched my mom to what they call passage care. Basically it won't be long now they say 24-72 hours. She is unresponsive now but the very last thing she has said to me so far is I love you too. I am not ready for this part of her journey but I guess no child ever is. I just hope she isn't uncomfortable. I lost a sister 10 yrs and one month ago today and I am still dealing with that. I know there are all walks of life on this board so I just ask that you would take 30 seconds and wish/pray or whatever that my mom has a safe exist from her pain; again I don't mean to get so heavy. In a side note a week or so ago I asked where I could find a 70 stingray (here favorite car). Well thanks to Mark Orr I was able to deliver on my promise of getting her a corvette. when I delivered it that was the last I saw her smile. Again I thank you for your support you have shown. I don't have many people to talk to about this so that is why this message is here Dave, I really feel for you knowing what will be coming. I will say a prayer for you both. The memories of her will always be with you. I think of my dad every day and he has been gone 30 years ago. I was 18. I gets better with time. Always cherish the good times and memories...
Guest Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 I was with my mom after she became unresponsive. They can still here. I told her lots of things, and a bit later she passed. It was perhaps the worst day of my life, I really feel for you.
disabled modeler Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 They switched my mom to what they call passage care. Basically it won't be long now they say 24-72 hours. She is unresponsive now but the very last thing she has said to me so far is I love you too. I am not ready for this part of her journey but I guess no child ever is. I just hope she isn't uncomfortable. I lost a sister 10 yrs and one month ago today and I am still dealing with that. I know there are all walks of life on this board so I just ask that you would take 30 seconds and wish/pray or whatever that my mom has a safe exist from her pain; again I don't mean to get so heavy. In a side note a week or so ago I asked where I could find a 70 stingray (here favorite car). Well thanks to Mark Orr I was able to deliver on my promise of getting her a corvette. when I delivered it that was the last I saw her smile. Again I thank you for your support you have shown. I don't have many people to talk to about this so that is why this message is here Hang in there Dave buddy....you have all our thoughts and prayers buddy. I was very happy to be able to help you with the promise buddy....a priceless smile is worth anything....that knowing it made her smile is more than enough payment for me buddy...its not every day one gets to be of such help to another...very happy to be able to...remember you have plenty of others here that are more than happy to lend an ear and show support in this hard time.
bigmerc2003 Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, I cant even begin to imagine what you are going through
mnwildpunk Posted February 7, 2014 Author Posted February 7, 2014 Yesterday morning I Got a call about this time 5am saying I should head up to the hospice. She passed at 7:24 with a room full of loved ones and my brother and I holding her hands. It was nothing like you see in the movies no last gasp or anything. I couldn't ask for a more peaceful passing. The sun had just started to shine and I believe she was riding one of those rays to her new home. Strange but I feel relief
JabMan Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Sorry for your loss, your mom is at peace and not suffering anymore.. My Grandpa passed much the same way as the sun was coming up. He was in Hospice for over 2 weeks suffering real bad at the end so when his time came it was a relief.
Johnag4004 Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Hi Dave, So sorry to hear this sad news, my thoughts are with you and your family Sir... Andy...
disabled modeler Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Sorry for your loss Dave...My thoughts and prayers are with your family and you. I know it had to help to have all of you there with her...once our loved ones pass there always with us looking out for us all. need anything just let me know bud.
High octane Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Very sorry to hear of your loss Dave, as it is a tough road to travel. Give it time and "trust in the Lord."
slusher Posted February 7, 2014 Posted February 7, 2014 Sorry Dave for your loss. Lean on family and get thru this hard time.
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