Why I've been so testy/ edgy

[Nick Winter]

I'm sorry about lately guys,

I haven't been sleeping very well, and have been under a lot of pressure, My doctor was even worried about my stress levels ,

the reason for me being very stressed out is that I'm going through Exams right now and have had some deaths in my family recently.

Sorry I've been a pain guys.

Nick

[Eshaver]

I'm sorry to hear of that Nick. Have you considered talking to a trusted friend/pastor or perhaps a professional counselor ? Ed Shaver

[charlie8575]

I'm sorry to hear of that Nick. Have you considered talking to a trusted friend/pastor or perhaps a professional counselor ? Ed Shaver

Ed's got a good point here, buddy. We don't want you getting all out of sorts, and perhaps someone whose primary job is to sit there and listen would be a good release for you.

Clergy, your guidance counselor, school psychologist or a private-practice counselor like Ed suggested are all viable options. If you have a good friend that you can just talk to, that helps in enormous quantities and is a valuable resource for you, too. My friends have helped me through a lot of very bad spots, including my life at present, which is a quagmire, and I've been there to do the same for them, too. One of life's most valuable gifts is the gift of good, reliable, trustworthy friends. God gave them to you for a reason- don't be afraid to use them.

If you need to talk about anything, you can always talk to me, too.

Charlie Larkin

[crazyjim]

Ed and Charlie are right Nick. TALK TO SOMEBODY!! I used to keep my combat experiences inside and it caused me to look for solace in a bottle. Didn't work. The booze made me angry and then I'd go looking for the biggest guy in the bar. Some wins/some loses but I was the biggest loser. Through caring friends (other Veterans) I was able to admit I had problems and sort professional assistance. It worked.

By the way, I'm not called Crazy Jim for nothing. I earned it and then changed my life around for the good.

So once again TALK TO SOMEBODY!!!!!

[Nick Winter]

thanks guys, I've been talking to some friends and been working in my shop a bit, I'm feeling less stressed, but I'm just plain tired out now.

[Guest Mustang3.8]

I'm sorry to hear that, buddy. Hope things work out for you. You can always talk to me.

[Jared Roach]

Sorry to hear that nick, just take take things 1 step at a time and it will get better. Your first time doing exams? As for exams, there easy, I've only got two this semester, science and french, if you are doing good in school and understand whats going on, then it's just like a test, nothing to worry about, there easy, unless you hate the teacher, then that's a TOTALLY different story!

[Nick Winter]

I'm going to go work on my Firebird formula, maybe finish up the interior.

[MikeMc]

One thought Nick......Family here and at home.....look for it , hold it, enjoy it.....although its always too short.......

Peace brother.

[roadhawg]

To be quite honest, I didn't really think you have been THAT testy.....not anymore than a typical teenager, lol. When I was your age, I was quite testy too! Hey, theres a few more peeps here that are more easily provoked than you, for sure!

Good luck with your exams, and sorry for the loss of your family members.

[Nick Winter]

Thanks Mike and Tommy.

[Corvette.Jeff]

I'm sorry about lately guys,

I haven't been sleeping very well, and have been under a lot of pressure, My doctor was even worried about my stress levels ,

the reason for me being very stressed out is that I'm going through Exams right now and have had some deaths in my family recently.

Sorry I've been a pain guys.

Nick

your about fifteen now right?

When i was about that age i went through the same thing, i talked to my friend whome ive been friends with ever since we were little kids, i mustve talked her ears off. Then finally after about a month i could finally fall asleep again. Im still always tired, but that comes with growing up. Especially when you get around my age(i turned 19 this month) and when you go through highschool. My sister is in college right now and she says it just gets worse. You just always have to remember to stay calm, it doesnt mean the end of the world if you do something wrong.

Take it easy nick, Jeff.

[Corvette.Jeff]

To be quite honest, I didn't really think you have been THAT testy.....not anymore than a typical teenager, lol. When I was your age, I was quite testy too! Hey, theres a few more peeps here that are more easily provoked than you, for sure!

Good luck with your exams, and sorry for the loss of your family members.

If that aint the truth! When i was his age i nearly bit peoples head off i was so testy!

[Harry P.]

Oh, to be 15 again and have those "problems" ...

It's all relative. What seem to you like big problems now, you won't even remember a few years down the road. Trust me... whatever you're going through now is nothing compared to what's coming... wife...kids...job...mortgage...ex-wife...

I don't mean to be a downer... it's just that you have to keep things in perspective. Life is a whole series of problems. There's no way to avoid them, you just have to deal with them as they pop up. I agree with the guys...it helps to talk to someone older/wiser/"been there, done that." Take advantage of the people in your life who are in a position to help you out... a teacher, a school counselor, an aunt or uncle, your mom or dad, an older brother/sister. Even if they can't do a thing to help you, it's good to just talk to someone. That alone will make you feel better...

[PatRedmond]

It's a bad time of year for stress/depression etc. for everyone.

Hang in there, Nick. Keep talking to people and staying active of mind and body.

[Ayatollah]

You leave us no choice but to kill you and eat you. We will divvy up your model cars at a date to be announced later. Please don't take this personally, times are tough, food is expensive and your turn came up. You're a good feller and you'll probably taste like chicken.

[Lownslow]

if its those stupid government exams just wing it, Students dont get fired, if its midterms i feel for ya but i winged that too and passed with above average grades.

[Ayatollah]

You'll be through it in no time.

I don't spend as much time here as I used to so it's unclear to me what the specifics are but stress can flow out into places like this and it was a good decision to let people here know that you have a temporary forces contributing to any mood that they notice. Hang in there.

[beefheart22]

When it comes to high school exams don't sweat them. I never studied beyond reading my class notes... that is when I took notes and not wondering what the blond in front of me looked like her without cloths on. Graduated high school and went on to college. High school seems tough right now, but it's going to be a cake walk compared to what life has in store.

Edited January 22, 2010 by beefheart22

[Tony T]

Nick, sorry to hear about your stress, etc. Good to learn how to manage it, deal with it and work through it when you are young. Healthy strategies. Makes it easier to deal with later in life, too.

Building models is a great way to learn to deal with life. Patience, following directions, planning, knowing when to put it aside. All good life lessons. Take care, Nick.

[beefheart22]

Building models is a great way to learn to deal with life. Patience, following directions, planning, knowing when to put it aside. All good life lessons. Take care, Nick.

Well put!

A couple buddies and I used to build models when we were teenagers as a distraction from being helplessly bored and frustrated in rural Ontario. Those who didn't have hobbies, sports or dirt bikes as something constructive to channel their energies usually got into drugs, hard drinking and trouble with the law that still follows them well into adulthood.

As an adult, picking the hobby back up has been great distraction from life's little trivial things. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

[Nick Winter]

Thanks Guys been talking to some Buddy's and my Brother, finished all of my French, and Geography exams today, finished up some painting for my Firebird Formula, and got a Decent nights sleep last night.

Thanks guys, Your advice was very wise.

[Corvette.Jeff]

Also nick, when ever i get in those moods(yea they even come at you when your 19) is i go for a drive, or take my old bicycle out for a ride, or just go zone out listening to my favorite music

[Nick Winter]

Nick,you'll probably think it's crazy,but the best people to talk about your problems with are your parents. They know you better than anyone else in the world after all. They have tons of experience with problems. They may not have had the exact problems in life that you have right now,but they have had very similar ones.

My daughter used to think she couldn't talk to me about her problems either. It was always "she couldn't talk to me" or "I wouldn't understand". Then I told her she would never find out if she didn't give me a try. She finally gave in and we had a good talk and she told me she felt better. Later she came back and hugged me and told me "thank you Daddy for listening to me". Now we tell each other about our problems all of the time.

I guarantee your parents know that you're stressed and they're just waiting for you to come to them to talk. Give them (or one of them) a chance Nick,you won't regret it and you will feel better.

Thanks Roger.

Also nick, when ever i get in those moods(yea they even come at you when your 19) is i go for a drive, or take my old bicycle out for a ride, or just go zone out listening to my favorite music

That would be great if my fuel pump hadn't died, I bought a new pump, just goota put her on.

[Chuck Most]

Also nick, when ever i get in those moods(yea they even come at you when your 19) is i go for a drive, or take my old bicycle out for a ride, or just go zone out listening to my favorite music

Jeff's advice works just as well when you're 27... I usually do the same things he suggests when I 'hit a wall'.