My 94 Crown Vic has a 4.6 SOHC and AOD 4 speed. Its got its quirks but with over 160,000 on it, aside from an oil leak its still running strong and VERY minimal rust which is a surprise since it was a ex-detectives car.
I'm not even married but we've been together for over 2 years and now every day I wake up, look over at her and say " Babe, I'm sorry" lol Just to cover the bases
I'm really sorry to hear about your hardships. One loss is hard enough... All I can do is offer my sincere condolences and to say that if you ever need someone to talk to, you got a whole family here man!