not what, but how you deliver the message. after 55 years I'm still a rookie when it comes to some things. but, as Bob said, "you don't need to be a weatherman to know which way the wind blows..." so if you've got an observation, spew it out.
people who display their things in a public arena have to expect this. ain't all "oohhs", "aahhs", and "atta boys". be pretty boring if it were, too.
I think the camera is the real harsh critic. I can spend months building something, focusing on what I believe is every finite detail, and one snapshot shows gaps, smudges, & flashing marks that could have been easily eliminated had they been not overlooked with the naked eye.