My lovely wife and I are at the age where we have all the "stuff" we want or need. MrsG always says don't get me anything and I say the same. I do get her a card and we go to dinner as her bday is the 27th, but other than that, nothing.
I quit smoking a year ago and one of the incentives was her telling me that the money saved on cigarettes could be used for my hobby. That my friends was a no brainer for me. So I get what I want, when I want it, and don't expect any gifts. I spend on her too, just I ask before hand.
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